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On being introverted and social and doing what I “should”

I’ve been playgroup hopping lately, trying to find one that’s a good fit for the boys and I.

Seems like it would be easy to find one. Kids, moms, snacks. What’s so complicated about that?

But the ones I’ve gone to have either been too structured or too far away or the wrong time of day or too crowded or too small.

Seems there’s always something.

It’s been interesting to watch Levi exploring these new environments too.

As much as I’ve been making an effort to connect with these other moms I don’t yet know, Levi is also surrounded by kids he doesn’t yet know.

And our little outgoing, loud, jumping, dancing dude that is used to being around 100 adults all at once has suddenly gone all quiet anf fringe.

He mostly just hangs out on the periphery. Not shy really, but not engaging much either. He loves being out playing with new toys or in new environments, but seems to mostly stick to himself, perfectly content to entertain himself.

He really is as independent as we keep thinking he is.

And so am I.

As I drove home from our latest playgroup attempt this morning I wondered if I’d ever really find one that “fit” immediately, or if it was just that I’m fairly independent and like doing my own thing on my own terms.

Not shy at all, but definitely comfortable spending my time as an introvert and doing as i please.

An introvert (who gets refreshed by being alone) but also loves to be social and have some fun.

And who also wants my boys to have fun running around with other kids instead of being cooped up with me all day.

How will this whole mom’s group thing pan Out? I guess time will tell.

In the meantime, I’ll keep playgroup hopping as I’m able. I think it’s good for all of us to get out and explore this little town that I so often dismiss as being too hot or too small or too whatever.

Because the reality is, it’s home. It’s ours. And it’s time to dig a little deeper… I think.

STOP.

 

Q for you: Are you an introvert or an extrovert? How does that factor into your social gatherings?

 

Love,
A

 

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Adriel also writes on motherhood and parenting at The Mommyhood Memos